What is Transgender?
Transgender is when person is a woman in a male body, or a man in a female body. Transsexual is a Transgender that had transitioned to the sex they are inside. Yes, I've heard of people wanting to change these definitions. Why? It makes sense to me just as it has been.
What causes it?
It's really simple. God made men male and women female (Matthew 19:4 and Mark 10:6). He made Adam and Eve and they were perfect and without blemish, both made in God's image (Genesis 1:27).
But, sin changes things.
Usually it is the sin done to people, rather than the sin people commit, that causes transgender I believe. For those claiming to be born that way: the Bible does say the sins of the father will be punished to the third and fourth generation (Exodus 34:7). The second is generational sin. The third way is sins people actually commit, but I don't really understand the how to even attempt to explain the third one. I so believe sexual sin causes it, including using pornography.
In my case, I was molested by a woman when I was 3 ½ years old then emotionally abused most of my childhood by my father. The rape killed the little boy I was and the female took over. I can look back and see her in pictures and in memories just trying to be heard. But, my father was cruel and emotionally abusive so I became more and more female. I remember reading a book by a female, clinical psychologist entitled "How women think" or something close to that. Anyway, she explained women, due to estrogen, look at people and try to anticipate what they need and respond accordingly through their emotions (women are nurturers). I did the same thing, looking at my father and wondering endlessly what he needed so he wouldn't hate and abuse me.
Basically, the rape made a girl and the emotional abuse was my estrogen.
The Good News
Jesus can break generational curses and heal. That is never brought up in the secular field at all. Since I know nothing about reparative therapy, I have no opinion on it. I trust in God and what He can do not men. However, God is merciful and He knows that sometimes the cure is worse than the disease (God didn't heal my Bipolar I for that very reason). For me, since I've been a girl since my rape for 47 years, healing, or restoring, me now would be counterproductive and a complete shock. I like a lot of female things. I just never saw that changing. But, for someone that did live a lot longer as a male or female, before changing, it might be the best thing for them.
How God Helped Me
In my case, God called me Rachel in a dream and it gave me complete peace. I was like, wow, God understands me. I am woman inside, hear me roar. *giggles* Yes, fellow Christians, God loves everyone and Jesus will meet everyone at the point of their need.
I could never afford transition over my life, and not sure I'd pass. Women definitely knew I was different because they assumed I was gay since I was so feminine. I actually have no interest in men, whatsoever. And, since I didn't think of women like men do, and, yes, I heard lots of men say things like, "I'd love to fuck her" or something similar and then imagine themselves doing it to the woman (they told me they did). I never thought of women that way. Yes, I've stared at boobs in my life, but my thoughts on some woman I was attracted to was, "what's she like?" or "what's it like to be her?" The only thing I ever imagined what kissing them, and that was rare. Consequently, women love having me as a confidante (but very few would ever want anything else). Even when I discovered my inner child, she was a girl.
I would love a female body, but I know it really isn't possible regardless of all the surgeries and things they have, which I could never have afforded anyway. I made total peace, thanks to God, being male physically and a female inside, although with all my rings, earrings, coordinated clothes, pink shirts and so forth definitely cast me as feminine. I just make sure I'm not too obvious.
So, in my humble opinion, before you decide Transgender is your thing, look deep inside and ask questions. Do I think like a woman? Do I give people that vibe? Do you have the heart of woman as the Bible talks about? Am I a nurturer (female) or a hunter/gatherer (male)? Are you interested in how you feel and how others feel? Both are key. Don't just believe some shrink who is paid to say, "you say you're trans, you are trans." What do you feel and what do you believe about you? Yes, I focused on women. But, if you are a female that is a man inside–much rarer than former–are you? Do you think like men do? Are you manly (not a Tom Boy)? Are you a nurturer? Are you a hunter?
Transgender is really rare and not common like they would have you believe. If you are doing it for sexual reasons, stop. That will never make you happy. Transition does not make one happy either. You have to be happy inside as a woman (or a man if your body is female) before anything else. I totally desire the female form for me, but God helped me be a peace and happy with my male body even though I am a woman inside. He can do it for you, too.
Yet, God still wants you to be Holy
Being Transgender is who you are. Even though I feel complete in who I am, I may find someone to be a partner with someday. At 51, I think that hope has all but faded. But, what would God want for me? I'm male physically so definitely a woman. Like it or not, gay and lesbian sex are sins. Being gay or lesbian is not, but the sexual act is sin.
Scripture tell us with all certainty Homosexuality and Lesbianism Sexual Acts are Sins
"For this cause God gave them up unto vile affections: for even their women did change the natural use into that which is against nature: And likewise also the men, leaving the natural use of the woman, burned in their lust one toward another; men with men working that which is unseemly, and receiving in themselves that recompense of their error which was meet." Romans 1:26-27.
People have twisted Scripture to say it is not a sin, but Romans leaves no doubt the sex gays and lesbians have is a sin. And, God gives a warning about engaging in it:
"Do you not know that wrongdoers will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived! Fornicators, idolaters, adulterers, male prostitutes, sodomites, thieves, the greedy, drunkards, revilers, robbers—none of these will inherit the kingdom of God. And this is what some of you used to be. But you were washed, you were sanctified, you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and in the Spirit of our God." 1 Cor. 6:9-11
And, of course, Jesus said marriage was between a man and a woman:
"He answered, 'Have you not read that the one who made them at the beginning "made them male and female", and said, "For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh"? So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.'" Matthew 19:4-6.
A man compliments a woman physically, spiritually, sexually and emotionally, and a woman does the same for a man. Jesus said so about marriage above.
Yes, some denominations are okay with it (gay or lesbian sex), but that does not mean it's okay to do. The Word of God is the authority not some denomination.
So, what does that mean for Transgenders?
If your body is male, you should go for a woman. If your body is female, you should go for a man. If you are gay or lesbian, you simply should abstain and ask God to help you. God can do anything. I've seen God do things for me that are totally awesome. I forgot to get gas and my tank was empty and I drove everywhere with it for three days before I saw it was bone dry. No way on earth it should've ran. But, God took care of it for some reason (He was showing me how much he loved me cause I had asked to do so). If God can do that, imagine how much is His unending, eternal love can change/fix/heal us inside?
What about those that have transitioned?
Oooo, good one.
I pondered this. God, if she transitioned and now has a female body...
God revealed to me that He alone makes us male and female (the Adam and Eve thing). Sin can change who we are inside, but the body can't be changed. It can be surgically altered, but it can't be changed. Your DNA says you are one or the other. You can surgically alter the body, but you can't change the DNA. You know what sex you were physically when you were born. Don't let anyone fool you on that simple, scientific fact. DNA tells the truth.
In fact, I would seriously ask God's opinion before you transition. If you really are a female inside, do you really need mones and surgery to prove it to yourself? Luckily, I could not afford it so I never had to ask. God helped me make peace with it (it really didn't take much–Him alone calling me Rachel made me happy).
At any rate, what God made you originally in physical form, that's it. "For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother's womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well." (Psalms 139:13-14).
You see, God made you male or female physically in the womb. Therefore, even if you transitioned to a female body, you would be engaging in homosexuality and that would be a sin. Same thing with a woman that transitioned to a man and engaging in lesbian sex with a woman would be a sin. Both are sexually immoral regardless of some preacher or church who says it isn't. The Bible is the authority not man. We follow Jesus not men.
That alone should make you really seek God before any transitioning (or if you have already transitioned). God can help you, just like he helped me, live in a male body even though I'm a girl inside.
But, know this:
God loves you. Transgender or not.